May the coming year bring you closer to home and if you are already there, may it bring you even closer to your home.
Friday, December 30, 2011
Saturday, December 24, 2011
To my Christian friends, may you basque in the light that is radiated from the love that you feel from your family, your friends and your God. I wish for you moments of quiet introspection. I wish for you moments of deep gratitude as there is almost nothing that feels as good as being grateful for the lives that we have.
To my Jewish friends, may you bathe in the warmth of the Menorah lights as you rekindle old memories and build new ones with those who you love.
And to those who share in any beliefs other than Christianity or Judaism, I wish you the blessing that we are all much more alike than we are different. So much more alike...
Happy Chanukah, Merry Christmas Eve, and a very happy and healthy New Year to all.
With so much love,
Deb(Four Angels Momma-most days)
Thursday, December 8, 2011
|Somewhere in Mission Viejo, CA|
There are just too many ways to make fun of this garish display of excess in action. There is even music being blasted out of loud speakers to accompany the display. I must say that if I lived anywhere in the nearby vicinity of this home, no jury would convict me for what I might do come December 30th, so thank goodness I do not. It is kind of cool to look at once or twice and it definitely proves who has the biggest one on the block, but still, in some ways all I can do is stare at it and think about what the people who live inside of this house must be really feeling.(Sorry, balebusta, darling, about the psych reference;) Just had to.) Mark and I went out to dinner with Angel Daughters Three and Four last night, and afterwards, they insisted on driving us past this well-lit home. Somehow, I am positive that almost every neighborhood in America must have a home or several similar to this one, but witnessing this up close and personal really made me think about this time of the year and the amount of excess that takes place in the face of all of the inner-sadness and longing that so many individuals are experiencing right now. A happy veneer in the face of spending far more money than people should be spending at a time of year when the weather is colder, the days are shorter so that daylight and vitamin D are in scarce supply, and we are expected to walk around humming happy little tunes about a fat man, jingling bells and other assorted merriments over sung by way too many covers. Should I just say bah-humbug and get it over with now?
What I guess I am really trying to say is this. I get it. For several weeks now, I have been coping with increased physical pain which becomes increased emotional pain which then becomes a longing for what I have lost. And then, I look around at everything all wrapped up in its bright, shiny packaging to wonder why I am feeling so blue. Why there seems to be an underlying tone of sadness in so many of the people who I come across on a daily basis, and even in the blogs that I read.
|San Clemente Pier|
For everyone else who might be struggling with the pain of loss during this time of the year;
I send you peace. And love. Lots and lots of love.
And I pray that for every moment of grief that you might feel, you also feel a moment of gratitude for all that you still do have. For the people who you can still hug, for the time that you can still spend, for the laughter that you can still share. For every memory, I hope that you will be able to create a new one with the people who are still here. The people who love on you, the people who encourage you, the people who support you, the people who lift you up. It is so important to remember that if we put too much focus on what we have lost, we also lose sight of what is standing squarely right in front of us.
So tonight, go take a ride in the car with some people that you love. See if you can find the most ostentatious house in the neighborhood and when you do, go ahead and send me a picture of yourself standing right in front of it.(We can have a contest to see whose is bigger!) I promise to post it here. Because you are a part of my now, as I hope that I am a part of yours. And this is how it should be. If we cannot make one another smile, then what the heck else is there?