Monday, January 7, 2008

I Believe in Goodness

Because I believe in goodness, I can usually peer through the darkness and see the light that is resting on the horizon. Even if I must force myself to look with only one eye open, squinting into the distance, I know that time, reason, kind words from people who care, and prayer will most certainly change the view for me, if I allow myself to trust.

I am still living within the midst of figuring out what choices I must make in order to preserve my own health, sanity and peace of mind, but I am doing so with a much clearer head. Chronic illness forces its bearers to set boundaries in places that are safe and protective. This illness, that I have no choice about living with, has taught me to be gentler and kinder with myself, especially at times when people who should care about me, do not. Chronic pain can be flared by even the most minute of irritants, and so, one of the first lessons that someone who lives with chronic pain must absorb is to limit the amount of excess stresses which can occur from day to day.

Throughout the past couple of days, I have received the kindest, most heartfelt messages from individuals whom I have only had the pleasure of knowing through blogging. We hear so many horror stories about things that happen as a result of the Internet, but my experience, so far, has been nothing but the opposite. I was talking to my husband about this a little while ago. I have come to believe that what you put out there, is generally, what you will attract back. This is true in life, whether talking about the Internet, or other aspects of the world. I choose to look for people whose blogs are positive, life-affirming, and intelligent. Hence, my experience throughout my short blogging life has been a very good one. I have met good people who are connecting with other good people, and so, the chain is formed. I believe in goodness, and the individuals whom I read and converse with in the blogging world seem to believe in the same thing. Good begetting good.

ChickenLiver, Dayna, Ness, Humble Origins, Alison, Kelly Jean, and Hallie have all taken the time in the past couple of days to share their thoughts and experiences with me about dealing with a very difficult family member. There are others of you, out there, who have also left wonderful comments, in the past, which have made the world into a much smaller place. I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you, and to let you know that I truly appreciate each and every one of you. As our little community of kindness grows, my belief in goodness is affirmed. Thank you.

May you share in the belief that life is mostly good. May you experience people and situations which help to affirm this belief, even if you have to squint to see the light.


Humble Origins said...

...I believe in Goodness, I believe in God, I believe in You... ;o)

...God bless ya Miss Debra!


Lizzy in the Burbs said...

Hi, Debra!

What a beautiful post you've written! I don't know what chronic illness you suffer with, but I'm so sorry that you're having a difficult time managing it right now. I have a friend whose husband has chronic pain, numbness and spasms in his arm and hand due to a neck surgery gone wrong. The day to day difficulties that he faces are numerous, and people just don't understand what he goes through because to them he appears perfectly fine. He tries to go about his life as normally as possible, as I'm sure you do, too. Try to stay positive, you have such a nice outlook on life, only positive things can come from it. Take care and I hope you're feeling better soon.

melissa @ the inspired room said...

Great post, I agree, I think you are going to attract in life what you are giving! Give good stuff, you'll get good stuff. Not that everything in life will be rosy or perfect just because we want it to be, it is an imperfect world and there are all kinds of people in it. But we can surround ourselves with positive influences as much as possible, tuning out the voices that squelch our joy and dreams. That is what I love about blogging too, if you soak in the goodness, as we have found in blogging, life becomes a much happier place!

Happy Day and best to you as you walk through some difficulties,


Ness said...

Bless your heart! Your post touched my heart. I know what you mean by finding awesome friends in
Blogland. Talk about finding the goodness when your squinting...we don't have a car because my girls car died and they needed one to get to work so we use the bus line and Metro lines. I walked to the store about a mile away and was going to take the bus back and then I would only have to walk about 2 blocks to our apartment. It was sunny when I left and I came out of the store to a deluge of rain and 4 plastic bags of food, one bag with a dozen eggs. I squinted and made it to the sheltered bus stop and while waiting for the bus, looked for that goodness and realized that I was able to walk to the store in the sunshine and I was in shelter during the rain. And then I came home and read your blog about finding the goodness when you squint. You are spot on.

Hope you have a good evening.

Alison said...

You are very welcome!! You have me all choked up, that was a beautiful and heartfelt post!! Be true to yourself!!

KellyJean said...

I love how you look for the positive in the midst of pain. I also love how you share these thoughts and that I've been able to read them! My prayers are with you!

Dayna said...

:) I get this. I so get it. There is light. It sometimes doesn't seem that way. Sometimes it hurts. You make tough decisions, and it's supposed to get easier, but then you live with those decisions - and their tough, because well, you don't really WANT to make them. So after, they still hurt. It does get easier. One step at a time. One day at a time. One blog post at a time.

You are not alone. Even when you think you are. You're not. The reality is, you took the first step - and shared it - and that my friend is what brought the support - you reached and we were here.

What a lesson. Would we ever know someone was there if we didn't reach?

Irene Latham said...

Love this post! Life is good. It is better than good. I'd like to send this post to all the newspaper writers!

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

The soup would make your stomach feel good!!

CJ had a really bad day yesterday - why don't you make some soup and I'll come and have some with you?

Hallie :-)

Debra w said...


Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. Wouldn't the world be a better place if we could get some of those journalists to write about more positives than negatives?


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