Wednesday, September 8, 2010

May You Be Inscribed and Sealed For a Good Year-And a Blessing For All




As I sit here contemplating these words, Jewish people all over the world are preparing for the days of awe, ten days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kipppur in which we reflect upon the year that has passed.  This is a time for reflection.  A time to ruminate.  A time to pull out our proverbial "scorecard" and to be honest with ourselves and God about the things we could have done better, the hurt that we might have purposely or inadvertently caused others, and most importantly, what we can do to repair our relationships with each other and the world.  On Rosh Hashanah, we celebrate the new year.  We attend synagogue.  We pray, and we spend time with family and friends.  Apples and honey are often eaten as a symbolic way of hoping for a sweet New Year.  It is a time of celebration.  Ten days later, on Yom Kippur, we fast, we attend synagogue, we pray that God will forgive us our wrongs and we pray that we will be inscribed in The Book of Life for another year.  Yom Kippur is also known as "the day of atonement".  It is a very serious day on which we are required to make repairs and right wrongs.  On Rosh Hashanah it is written, on Yom Kippur it is sealed.  It is a hugely meaningful time for Jewish people.  For us, these are the most important days of the year.  Even Jews who are not religious usually attend temple, as well as observe the meaning of these days.


As we head into these days of awe, I was reminded of this little prayer book that my husband received anonymously in the mail several months ago.  There was no note, no inscription and no return address on the package.  Only this small silver bible and nothing else.  I had never seen this type of a prayer book before, so I looked it up online to see if I could trace its origins.  I found that these bibles were produced in the early sixties, but not much else.  A true mystery.  And as much as this bothered me, my dear husband was satisfied with the idea that someone sent this to him anonymously and that whoever it was wanted to keep it that way.  It is definitely old.  It has that musty odor which only comes with time.  The pages are clear and mostly unmarred, although the plastic box that it came in carried the scratches from a lifetime of use.

Twenty-six years ago tonight, I was going over the details of a lacy, long white gown covered in tiny pearls.  I was absorbed in the particulars of a day which seemed as if it would be the most important day of my life.  I was laying out jewelry, traipsing around the house in pajamas and high-heeled shoes to break them in, and smiling.  Yes, I was definitely smiling.  For the next day, on September 9, 1984, I was getting married at the age of twenty-two years old.

And what I did not know at the time, but I do know now, is that I would be marrying a man who could receive an antique silver bible in the mail, not really concerning himself too much about the origins of this mysterious gift.  I, on the other hand, like to solve the riddle.  While I contemplate, he accepts.  While I analyze, he concedes.  While I delve in, he hangs back waiting patiently to find out whether or not I will need his back-up.  And if I need him to back me up, well then it is definitely time to get out of the way!

Looking back over the past twenty-six plus years, I have come to the realization that Mark is my perfect fit, and I am his.  We have grown up together.  We have transformed one another.  We have created an impeccable fit.  My head fits perfectly into the crux between his neck and collarbone when we hug.  I would know the rhythm of his heartbeat anywhere.  We often think the same thoughts and say the same words at the same time.  September 9, 1984 was only one of the best days of my life.  One of many.  Oh so many.


Happy Anniversary, my love.  The ying to my yang.  The cookie to my milk.  The other half of my heart.  And there is no riddle as to why someone would want to pass along their prayer book to you, anonymously or not.  Because you are that kind of man.  Humble and kind and a true mensch.

In your eyes...

And to all who honor me by stopping by and taking the time to spend a moment or two in my little corner of the world, whether Jewish or not, I pray for your health.  I pray for your joy.  I pray for your wellness.  L'Shana Tovah-For a Good Year.

PS-And yes, it is very appropriate to say Happy Rosh Hashanah or Happy New Year to your Jewish friends.  Thank you for asking, Kim-D, dear one:)  On Yom Kippur, an appropriate sentiment would be to say, "May you be sealed."

13 comments:

jojo said...

Happy New Year and Happy Anniversary you two. You are a beautiful couple in every way that is important and I am the blessed one to have found your happy corner of the world. I have learned to much from you! Bless you as you celebrate this special time and reflect on the past year...

Laura ~Peach~ said...

happy new year happy anniversary awesome book and thank you... i love learning about jewish religion/ beliefs and seeing how you guys live them out... :) awesomeness.
love and hugs
Laura

Mumsy said...

Beautiful post dear, sweet Debra! Happy New Year!

Happy Anniversary to you and Mark! I agree you fit together very well. You make a beautiful couple. Praying you have many more wonderful years together and those years are filled with love, happiness, fun and good health. Hugs

Ness said...

Happy New Year and Happy Anniversary. May you always be blessed. Roger and I do the same thing--finish each other sentences, have the same thoughts, etc. It's a relationship like no other.

Did you get my apple/challa bread/honey recipe in your email? We're making it today in honor of your holiday.

Catherine Holman said...

Happy Anniversary and may God bless you with many more happy years together!
Hugs,
Cathie

Renee said...

Wishing you a Happy Anniversary and Happy New Year with God. I think all religions would benefit from this time of antonement you speak of and spending time looking back on what we could do better, etc. It is a beautiful way to cleanse ourselves. I also had to smile at your description of your self vs your husband. Sounds just like my Joel and me....Definitely ying and yang....brought together by God and blessed beyond imagination.
Wishing you peace...

Catherine said...

Happy Anniversary to you and your love Debra! Clearly you were a VERY young bride the same as me! ;)

Beautiful post!
xo Catherine

Neil and Susan Brown said...

Happy Anniversary to you both. You can see in your photo how perfect you are together. Happy health and much joy Debra and a Happy New Year! xo :)

Laura said...

We've already exchanged Yom Tov blessings so now I must say Mazal Tov!!! What a perfect day to celebrate 26 years of joy!

love to you,
Laura

kim-d said...

**HAPPIEST OF HAPPY ANNIVERSARIES TO THE CUTEST OF CUTE COUPLE!!!** Seriously, the two of you even LOOK like you're a perfect fit for each other, and I just love that.

Like Laura, I love learning about Jewish holidays and practices, too. Over all of these years, several of my Jewish friends have given me a glimpse, and it makes me want to know more. I especially love "May you be sealed."

I also especially love it here! :)

Sharon said...

Your gratitude and how much these holidays mean to you are so clear. The story of the prayer book highlights the sense of tradition that is part of your family's faith. Thank you for this moment of light, Debbie. Happy New Year.

Sabi Sunshine said...

Happy Aniversary to you! May God brings you all the happiness in your life... Journey of life keep growing and bring you lot of happiness in your way...

Sending you lots of love

Love
Sabi Sunshine

Cheryl @ Mandala Oasis said...

Dear, Beautiul, Luminous Deb....

It's so good to see your face!..and the glowing photo of you and your hubby..and angel daughters of course :) Happy Anniversary...and bravo to you both...for all that's happened since that day. It is heart-warming to witness the blessing of it all. :) Be well.. and sending you love and hugs.. xxoo, Cheryl

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